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Dramatization is part of the attitudes associated with a context of change or even of apprehension of a relational rupture in which affectivity is strong.


[edit] Expression

Dramatization happens when a person experiences a feeling of rejection or fear that can be:

  • To feel falling into disrepute, to feel discredited;
  • To feel rejected;
  • To feel abandoned;
  • Jealousy;
  • To have disproportionately jeopardized and put into danger the nature of a relationship in comparison with the reality of what has been undergone;
  • To be the cause of an event (change) that is detrimental to a person for whom a strong emotional attachment is felt.

In other words:

  • The person feels overwhelmed;
  • The person feels responsible of dramatic consequences for a person for whom a strong emotional attachment is felt;
  • The person interprets a situation, imagines a course of events that has not been expected and can already observe the beginning of the consequences.

For example:

  • A person no longer believes in a relationship for which, according to his own criteria, he has heavily invested;
  • A person hears comments that make him suddenly discover or realize that a close one expresses a feeling of rejection towards him.

[edit] Construction of Dramatization

Dramatization is associated with the following feelings:

  • Fear of losing the relationship;
  • Guilt of having questioned the relationship;
  • Powerlessness to return to the previous emotional situation;
  • Regret of being caught in the vice of a strong contradiction;
  • Overbid of relational strategies;
  • Guilty research of feeling secure with the person precisely rejected.

[edit] Risks of Results

  • Risk to allocate the dramatic dynamic to the other;
  • Risk of being blamed by the other for what he did not succeed to do, say, think or be;
  • Depression;
  • Dramatization of what we do provokes a mirror effect dramatization (reflection of our dramatization).

[edit] Emotional States

The dramatization causes emotional states and painful physical states:

  • Anxiety
  • Anguish

[edit] The Reinforced Self-Centering

Dramatization strengthens the self-centering. It creates a focus on the self-referenced interpretations of the events and others. In a relationship between two people, to make it short, one of them is only seen through a prism of claims already adjudicated. Even though this person would adopt another behavior considered better for everyone, he will not appear credible to the person who has already made the mourning of such changes.

The person who dramatizes does not realize he is dramatizing. However, if the person realizes that he is dramatizing, he considers that the dramatization is because of the other person that therefore prevents him from having a power to exit the dramatization. Because of the established idea that the dramatization would come from the other, the person who has initiated the questioning of the relationship feels dependent on the functioning of the other. And to experience this state of dependency as a condition of victim, there is often only a step that is quickly crossed.

[edit] The Benefit of Dramatic Consciousness

Being aware we are actor of the dramatization, especially when we initiate it, enables to purge most of the emotional dynamics and act to defuse the dramatization.

"When I realized that I had a bad perception of reality and had been responsible for the dramatization, I felt relieved. Finally, I saw a new issue while before all seemed blocked to me. Since I initiated the dramatic heaviness, I could stop it, at least on my side. And if I played my cards right, the other party could as well be the beneficiary of my approach. I felt more responsible. I thought before that only the other could do something, that he only could put an end to this overbid... I felt powerless, guilty and incapable to do something. I accused the other... A quagmire of disabilities..."

[edit] Action of Dramatization

  • Stop having catastrophic remarks, suggestive of fixed and definitive ideas;
  • No longer blame and feel guilty;
  • Not excessively affirm the power to handle heroic responsibilities (disproportioned, in reality impossible);
  • To be released from fearful thoughts.

[edit] After the End of Dramatization

Nevertheless, despite the awareness and implementation of coherent actions, the end of a dramatization process may not succeed in reaching the reconstruction of the relationship or even a transformation of the relationship that would suit the other party or even oneself. Symptoms of depression may appear.

[edit] Pedagogy

To bring out the awareness of the dramatization dynamic, it is possible to propose to the participants a training session to think about:

  • The contexts in which they have themselves dramatized and the consequences of this dramatization;
  • The contexts in which close ones have dramatized and the consequences they have observed.
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