Reflection within otherness ®

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The reflection within otherness is one of two ways that orient a reflection in order to resolve a conflict. It leads to develop strategies and devise solutions through the recognition and acceptance of differences. Opposite to the reflection within adversity, this mode of reflection is one of two ways designed by the human mind in view to resolve a conflict.

The use of the pronoun "You" completely differs according to the mode of reflection:

  • Within adversity, the "You" judges, imagines bad intentions from the thoughts of the other, misinterprets, condemns, rejects, blames and constrains...
  • Within otherness, the 'You' understands, supports, accompanies, facilitates and thinks...

This mode of reflection within otherness is developed and can be recharged either through a strong emotional relationship between the parties in disagreement, or thanks to a deep level of consciousness among the parties involved in the conflict.

  • Facilitation;
  • Mediation;
  • Reconciliation;
  • Recognition, which may consist to recognize the strength of his opponent who came in order to prove it (avoid war by recognizing the superiority of his opponent).


[edit] The Possible Outcomes

  • Resumption of the relationship - without new conditions
  • Adjustment:
  • resumption of a relationship including new changes in comparison with the previous relationship;
  • physical distance with the maintain of a relationship that may include an amendment to a contract;
  • Rupture of the relationship:
  • that can be final and with no return;
  • or mutually arranged by the parties who do not imagine that a relationship could still be possible after the agreement.

[edit] Mediation

Mediation is usually considered as a method outside the legal, moral and cultural influences and which aims at enabling the parties to seek and reach the most satisfactory solution possible for them and according to them - not to the third party mediator - accompanied in their reflection by the mediator.

[edit] The Unimaginable Discussion

The unimaginable discussion is a discussion that people-in-conflict can’t imagine to experience together but that a professional mediator can enable. They think they already have considered all possible solutions. The professional mediator is the one who led this unimaginable discussion.

[edit] Contributive Negotiation

Contributive negotiation develops and nourishes the ambition of a party to reach an agreement while considering and respecting the success of the other party within the agreement.

[edit] Specific Techniques

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